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Dream Deferred


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At times in life, our life shifts into different directions that are out of our control. Today I experienced a shift that totally not only knocked me off my feet, but again the wall so hard that I can’t move. Trying to find a job in the writing and research field is hard enough ( hell, a job period), but finding out that you can no longer get the education to continue to try to be on the way of success is a hard blow. I found out that I can’t finish pursuing my PhD. On this blog, I like to keep it real with my readers and give it to you straight no chaser. I know that set backs and things happen. I also know that it’s not the end of the world and I will be able to finish, but right now, in this moment, I feel like someone has taken my air supply for me to breathe. Due to financial reasons, I am unable to finish school at the moment. I know that many have been where I am, and even more have experienced this same situation, but this is my current reality. The reality that I feel like I’ve failed. Parents raise their children to follow the directions, law and get a good education. I have done all of that and yet it seems like it was for nothing. Being a PhD student has taught me a lot about myself and to endure patience in the inevitable. Even though I only have 3 classes until I start writing my dissertation, I guess patience is something I still have to endure before I am able to go back to school. Ah, the irony!

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Not working in a field or job that is tolerable is the worst kind of agony that I don’t wish on anymore. At first it’s like, ” Okay, I’m going to be fine. I have a savings that will hold me for a while.” Then it turns to, ” Holy shit! I’m out of money, what am I going to do?” The unthinkable of not wanting to feel even more like a failure or lame you turn to those parents who taught you how to make it on your own and tell them not only have you failed, but school is deferred. It’s something like a hard blow to the head on the way down to the floor. Now, I’ve never been hit in the head, but I can imagine the pain that comes with it. I know some of you may be thinking, ” It’s not the end of the world, you will go back when you get the funds.” I hope that does happen. Its just an initial shock. I’m still struggling to find work and I’m no longer in school. I have to take a leave of absence for a while just until things change.

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This is currently how I’m feeling. Determine what the next step is for my life, if there is a next step to take. Im doing all I can by applying for jobs everywhere on a daily basis. My dream of successful writer is still in the works because I am writing or at least I will be. I opened up a manuscript that I had started and read it. It’s a love story and yet I just keep staring at the chapter 3 mark. We will not even go there in the relationship department. Granted, I want to be happy and have a successful relationship that will lead to marriage, but right now I don’t know if I’m coming or going. I just keep asking myself, ” Why do good people get the shittiest hands in life?” I understand the concept of life happening and things are never perfect, but it’s like every time you turn around it’s always something. Well, I think I’m done turning. What can happen if I stand still? Oh yea, nothing, lol. At least if I’m turning, I’m moving, right? Prayer has been my best friend and my journal has been my right hand. In due time I will have a good job and school will resume. The dream is not put off, it’s just a dream deferred.

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Fear Can Kick Rocks!


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Hey Readers! Before I go into detail about my post, I first want to thank EVERYONE for their kind words about my post regarding Goal Setting. So, I just finished reading a school assignment that I was way behind on and it has my brain fried. But, since I have writing a daily blog on my newly t0-do list on my phone, I figure I would kill two birds with one stone and write something fun and get the task done.  I was thinking about the term fear and what it meant to me. I decided that my own definition is:

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Fear-Being afraid to allow those of importance see your gifts and awesomeness!

I posted a picture of the late Robin Williams because he explains in an interview about how he was afraid to be funny. He had stated that no one understand why he wanted to be an actor and a comedian. Well, I am glad that he was able to put that fear aside because what we have here is a LEGEND, and a funny one. Robin was able to find his niche and actually go for it. Was he fearful? It is possible that he was, but I have learned that fear and nervousness are two different things.

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Being afraid to try new things or learn something new can hold you back a ton! I will use myself as an example. I can say that I despise statistics with a passion. I always have felt that I would do it wrong and fail a class. Now, years later, I still have to take some or statistics course and instead of  being afraid, I change my mindset. This is how I chose to tackle that fear.

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  1. I said that I was going to do my best and pass the class. You’d be surprised how positive pep talks are to yourself. It not only relieves the anxiety, but it makes you believe in yourself. ( At least it does for me)
  2. Before the class started, I was honest with my instructor about my lack of statistics and math skills. This actually helped me a lot because she was able to give me some videos to watch and practices to do before class.
  3. Make friends with those in class. 9 times out of 10, if you are unsure of the material, someone else is as well. Two heads are better than one.
  4. Actually try. Okay, I know this may sound redundant, but you would be surprised at how many students(myself included) would do the minimum to skate by the class or glide along with little knowledge of the material. Now, with this, you can think of it two way, you can’t get by with paying minimum of a bill and think you will skate by, so you mind as well learn all you can to actually pass. Or in my example, pay the entire bill.
  5. By putting fear aside and trying, I actually ended up liking the class and what I was learning. I got a C in that statistics class, but I was 2 points from a B and I tried my hardest instead of being fearful.

Growth-v-FixedI know I used this in previous blog, but it goes along with fear. In order to tell fear kick rocks, you have to change your mindset. My friend once said, ” Flowing water never goes stagnant.” Do not be comfortable with fear because time will pass and you will still be in the same place, comfortable and complacent. Tell fear to kick rocks and you keep it moving. Be the best you that you can be and focus on what matters.

Here is a good book, that will help you tell fear to kick rocks. I highly recommend this book and I have a review of it as well. It is a MUST read if you want to ” get your life” as they say!

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Your Mindset: Is It Fixed or Growth?


Happy Wednesday!

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Happy hump day! I hope all is well on this beautiful Wednesday and you are all enjoying the second day of summer! I wanted to blog today about having a growth or fixed mindset. As I am still plugging away with reading the nook by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D it is making me think more about my mindset and I need to change that no matter what.

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This book is truly something special. You maybe asking if you do not already know, what is a growth or fixed mindset? In my opinion I see this has having a positive or negative attitude about yourself and/or a situation. This can even be in relationships. I am learning that the way you think can be a powerful thing.

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In my case I share the traits of both a fixed and growth mindset. Lately, I have been thinking a lot about my life and the people I have in it. Listening to what they say and how they respond to things and most of them have a fixed mindset. I am not really trying to surround myself with those kind of people. I am developing a growth mindset. I usually equate the fixed mindset when it comes to feelings of failure. If I didn’t make it, I won’t make it. Please don’t do this. My current job has ended and I am trying to be in a good place about it. My time ended and I know that something better is coming. If I get another rejection letter, I have to say, better is coming. I will be okay. This is what developing a growth mindset is about.

Mindset With Relationships

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I don’t know about other relationships, so I will use mine as an example. This is me and my current boyfriend. Here we are, we look happy right, content even. Our thoughts and goals are totally different. He thinks for now and somewhat for the future. He’s money conscious which is important. I would say that he has traits of both fixed and growth mindset. On the flip side, patience is a hard at times. I know I have had times where I was impatient and wanted what I wanted at that moment. I have learned to plan things out instead of just jumping head first as I used to. As whole for me and my boyfriend, I do not know if we are a ” forever” couple. Sure we have some of the same long term goals, but we are still very different. I’d like it be forever, but that is too early to determine. We are in a good space. Our dreams are very different so I am excited to see what will become of us as we continue dating.

Let me know in the comments are do you have a growth or fixed mindset?

 

 

 

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Is It Imperative To Reward Yourself?


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Hey readers!

As I packing up my desk today for my last day in the office ( I will still help out from time to time), it made me feel so bittersweet. I had my bag and putting my office dishes ( mugs, etc) and I couldn’t help but to take a deep sigh. On the verge of tears, I held it tougher because I couldn’t believe that the 10 month program had gone by so fast. I was happy but I also had a panic feeling. What’s next? What do I do now? I spoke to my boss who was watching me pack up and she was complimenting me on what a great job I did working for her, but then she said something that really made me think. She said, ” Krystol, although I do hope you find another job you will not be happy until you are making money doing something creative. Make something your own and make money from it.” I was at a loss for words. Here I am applying for jobs day in and day out knowing that I would not truly be happy. Since I’ve been blogging more, I notice that I am able to get out more content when I write what I want. Then she said, ” When the time comes you will figure out what you want to do and you will be happy, but in the meantime don’t forget to reward yourself. Reward myself? I thought quietly.  I had heard another boss tell me to do that too. But, honestly, how do you do that? Spa trip, vacation? New books? Well, the new books part sounds fun!

This may sound silly, but I started to look up ways to reward myself for finishing what was a hectic program. AmeriCorps is no joke. Working 1700 hours, plus trainings on Friday that can be daunting at times, workshops that you present and retreats where you ” bond” with others in the program. It was an experience. Would I do it again? No.  I say this only because I felt this program is something for those between the ages of 18-25. It was not for me, but I did learn a lot about myself and a few extra pointers along the way. So, it was not in vain if that makes sense. To reward myself, I am going to treat myself to a $40 book spree.

What does this mean?

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Well, I will buy all of the books that I want for $50 bucks! I think I am going to order on book outlet and have a party. They always have the best books for cheap. That and thrift books.Com! I LOVE that site. Did I mention that all of the books are VERY cheap, too? I may just do thrift books because once you order $10 worth of books, shipping is free.  I know I said I was on a ban until I read half of what was on my shelf, but it does not hurt to splurge a little, right? After all it is MY reward! I think I will get every book that Colleen Hoover and Libba Bray has written. See…I’m going over budget already! Any who, it has been said to me to always reward yourself when you complete a task. I think that if the reward is not beneficial to you, then the task is irrelevant.

Let me know in the comments, is it imperative to reward yourself?

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Is It Wise To Dream Big?


Happy Monday!

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Hey Readers! So, I was sitting here evaluating and thinking about life. I was thinking about my goals and things that I wanted to do with my life. We are often taught to set a goal and stick with it. Make sure that the goal is obtainable and we can try to reach it. Well, I have many goals. In fact, I think that I have too many goals that I try to reach at the same time. But, then I just realized that there is nothing wrong with having a lot of goals, but to do one thing at a time.  It’s funny, my writing mentor and many other people have told me that I try to do too much too fast. Lastly, I have to agree with them. With school, trying to find another job and attempt to write again, the world is in my face. Not in a sense that people are in my face, but that I have so many opportunities that I can grab. Then again, my focus is every where except for one place.

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I had once read a book called, ” The Magic of Thinking Big” by Dr. John Swartz. This book really helped me with coming to terms that I have to make things happen in order to see success. Then it dawned on me I needed to get myself together. I had to start believing in my gifts and really utilize them. One thing that  I used to always do was tell people my ideas and my dreams. Some would think it was wise while others would say, ” Krystol, there is no way that you can do that or yea you and everyone else wish they could be that successful.” After talking to myself for what seemed liked hours, I decided to stop confiding in others about my life and my dreams. After all, it is all about me, right? Not in an egoistical kind of way, but just, about me in a sense that this is my world, my fate that I decide if things happen. Granted, I know that God works in mysterious ways, but faith without works is dead! People or those who were once like me, I have a message for you: Get off your lazy ass and get your shit together! So what someone tells you no, find someone who will say YES. Or better yet, create YES for yourself.

To Dream Big or Not Dream Big? That Is The Question

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I say go for it. If people are not riding with you on that train, then kick them off. I have come to the realization that I need to kick people off. Start worrying about yourself and not  everyone else. This goes for co-workers, friends, family, and even foes. It’s funny how people on social media are so quick to blast their lives and things that they think are good. I can’t be like the rest. I have to be different. Different stands out and I want to stand out in a way that I am able to make it for myself. My mindset is that I am the acceptation to the rule. For those that actually really my blog posts this is for you. Never let anyone tell you that you cannot do what you want to do in life. Always have people in your corner who believe and want the best for you. Start saying no to leeches, users, fakes and phonies. If you have a dream(s) see it through. I recently read a writer’s blog I forget her name, but she wanted to live in Ireland. She had written a book that had Irish word usage, the town, etc. She had written the book about ten years ago and once she decided that she wanted to live in Ireland, she started to get prepared. In order to do so she started to save money  and became very frugal. It took her eighteen years, but she is now a homeowner to a cottage in Ireland and has moved there from Philadelphia. She had a dream and she went for it. Sure, there were obstacles along the way, but she never gave up on what she wanted to do. Her story really inspired me. I want to be a successful in all areas be it novels, films, and TV. My other goal is to be a researcher in educational psychology. It just dawned on me that I am really good with research. Quantitative research is not my favorite, I’d very much prefer Qualitative research, but hey, beggars can’t be choosers right? Today, I have taken an oath to do what is important to me and be selfish. I say no when I usually say yes and I have started to save money again. I maybe moving soon ( don’t know where) once I find a job so I have to be prepared. To answer my own question, Is it wise to dream big? Hell Yes! Go for it, reach for the stars!

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Life Coach?


Happy Tuesday!

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Hey readers! I hope everyone is having a great evening at home. Are you curled up with a good book? Anyway, I was in the mood to write so I figured why not blog. Lately, there has been a lot going on with trying to find a job and still trying to write or lack their of. My mentor always told me that when I did not feel like writing not to write. But, I did not think that this funk or block would last for 3 months!! Good lord, but yet, I still have another day to get on the band wagon.  So, I noticed that a lot of time has been focused on social media. It is the worst thing to do when you are procrastinating and could be doing other productive things like….Writing!

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Often times I reflect on my life and myself and there is always something that could be changed or I could be doing better. Like…time management. Sure, I’m a ph.d student and I am currently working until the end of the month and these last three months have been like ugh lol. Not necessarily in a bad way, but I have been a little stressed with trying to find my next job.  I decided to get a life coach! It’s so funny, I met Tara when I did Airbnb which is a private bed n breakfast. It was my first time using any bed and breakfast so it was really cool. When I met her and asked what she did for a living, she told me that she was a life coach! Now, I had heard of life coaches before and know a couple,  but I did not know all of what it did entail. Needless to say, our session was amazing! I felt a little relieved and emotional after our conversation. What made me even think about getting a life coach was that I felt I needed help sorting out my life. Trying to find a job and still write, being a doctoral student and even having a new relationship. I need to balance everything so that I won’t feel so all over the place to the point where I shut down. Lately, I have been doing a lot of praying and just thinking over things within the past year. I am proud of what I have accomplished thus far, but now I am moving on and I want to be the happiest me that I can be. Have you ever felt that way? To those who have a life coach and don’t mind sharing your experience, please let me know in the comments,how has this helped you in your life?

 

 

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Opening Up When Opportunity Knocks…


Good evening

Good evening readers!

I hope that everyone has had a great week this week and you are having an even better weekend! Things have been busy with work and school, but I am determined to make my blog a part of my writing routine as I do with journals. Life tends to happen and go in a fast pace. So, what’s new with you? How’s the reading going? Writers, are you writing?

On the writing front, I have started a new novel, but I have been busy to continue writing. Well, I won’t say busy, I will be honest and say it is not on the high list of priorities at the moment. These past two weeks, I have been taking two classes in school, plus working full-time as I have always been. I need to work on my time management skills as I always say. Hey, it’s youtube’s fault! That site is addicting beyond measure and between watching videos about books, reading and writing, I have neglected my first love. I am a work in progress.

But, I wanted to talk or write to my followers about an opportunity.  When you have a dream or a goal and it starts to manifest, do you take the offer or decline out of fear? I used to decline because I felt I was not ready or was very afraid.  As I mentioned before, my current position ends in June. I have applied for other jobs and today I had a job interview for a position that is 2 and half hours from where I am. I will have to relocate with makes me nervous all over again! What brings the anxiety is the fact that I have to learn a new area. But, I will be okay.  The job is a great one though, definately a steeping stone in the right direction of my field. It’s a researcher/writing assistant position. This is going to be fun! It’s for a non-profit organization so being as though my major is PhD in Educational Psychology, i will be able to utilize my research skills. It’s not the dream job, persay, but my dream job is to write and do research, but within a different entity. So, I think that this will be cool. If offered the position which I think I will be, I will gladly accept! Although I will be nervous, it will be good for me because I am doing what I love! When an opportunity comes your way, do you take it? Let me know in the comments!

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Are You Ruining Your Own Success?


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Good morning, readers! It is Tuesday and I hope the rest of your day goes well. I have to start reading some articles for school, but as I was reading blogs, I came across this post here and I loved it! It really made me think about success and how I may have been holding myself back due to negative mindset and people.  Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that all people are negative, but those can be negative without even noticing it.

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Are you ruining your own success? 

We always tend to ask for approval from others in may ways. For example, if you and your friend are going shopping and you ask her, ” Do I look in this?” In your mind you already feel that you are, but because she says no, you don’t buy it. Why? Why do we tend to value others opinion more than our own?  Now that I think about it, it sounds so STUPID that I have given other people power over my judgement of how I view myself, my life etc.  As you guys already know, I am in school for my PhD. Since I have started this journey and other ones that are deemed successful by others, I am often judged. I am not judged in public, but quietly. I am sure there are people who are jealous, wish they could achieve the same, etc. If you are one of those people YOU CAN do whatever it is that you put your mind you.  What must you do to get it done? Here are 10 things that you will you be more positive and make better choices. This things may be hard to do, but I think it is needed in order to get into the mindset of being successful.

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1. Stop the excuses.  We have so many of these when it comes to doing the things we want to do. Some excuses are, there is no time, I have kids, I work and go to school, I have no support. FUCK ALL OF THAT!!  That is bullshit! I have even used some of these excuses. If you want to do anything, you will make time for it. Kids should be the reason to do anything to better yourself, not be your downfall or crutch.

2. Change your mindset. This is an oldie but goodie. I had to check myself today. The mind is such a powerful tool. Anytime, it can make you happy, sad, depressed, etc. This asset is serious. Think more positive and less negative. I told myself that I will have to be more positive. Faith without works is dead.

3. Surround yourself with successful people.  Okay let me explain this one in more detail. I do not mean to hang with people who are rich. Granted, if you do, you can learn about money in greater detail. However, my point is to surround yourself with those who are about something positive in life. Do not let those who have a negative mindset and NO drive to succeed, crowd your judgement or you. Trust me, I have even cut family off, and I could care less. I know it may sound harsh, but if one is not about something positive and always has something to say, I don’t need you in my life. I love you, but I do not have to like you.

4. Work Hard. No matter what it is that you want to be successful with, always work hard. I know this is something that you maybe saying, ” duh Krystol”, but it makes a difference. Giving your all into your passion makes others notice. If they see you are serious they may want to help.

5.  Have Fun.  It does not matter how hard your work, who you hang with, etc if you don’t have fun time for yourself. Working hard is cool, but give yourself a break here and there. It is good for the soul. Well, at least that is what my grandmother used to say. I need to follow my own advice. I am always fiddling on my computer and ordering take out lol. I will get it tougher. My goal is to go to Book Con next year and other book events. Plus write two books this year.

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And always plan to win! In the comments below, what do you want to successful in?

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Meet Up #1: Tracey Clark A Great Writer and Blogger


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It’s not everyday that you get to meet awesome people! Well, I have met a new friend, blooger and writer named Tracey. Tracey and I met though another blog! I have decided to do guest posts on my blog so you that you guys can join in on the fun! If you are interested in being featured on my blog please send queries to:krystoldiggs@gmail.com. Okay, enough of my rambling, meet Tracey!

Tell the readers about yourself?

I am a country-twang gal from the bluegrass state. Kentucky is a hot bed of horses, cave systems, and whiskey. And I love all three. With my pugs and bossy kitty cat, I spend my days writing and working social media. I write with the help of the voices pushing me to create worlds for them to live in. Fantasy Romance, Contemporary Romance, and eventually some cowboys (because cowboys live in a group all there own, yummmm) are the genres that I love best.

In 2005, a serious case of Multiple Sclerosis ended my higher education as I strived to finish my mathematics degree, wiping away all my beautiful numbers and a large portion of artistic talents that I had taken for granted most of my life. After a few years, my beautiful words started to come back to me. Filling my days and nights with imagined worlds helped me to cope with my newfound reality. I am currently working with Mary (my publisher) at http://gonewritingpublishing.blogspot.com/ Each day I find that getting sick has helped me to find my passion.

  1. What made you start blogging?

I knew that if I wanted to be serious about publishing my worlds and characters for the world to find and enjoy, I needed a platform. At first I collected books like ‘2014 Novel and Shortstory Writer’s Market’, while I joined RWA (both online and my local chapter) in order to gain the knowledge I would need to go forward with what had fast become my life, my dream.

Butttt … Post MS me turns out to be extremely tech-lite. It took some frustration and multiple attempts, but I final know at least half of the ways to share my posts with the world wide web. Okay … at least a quarter of the ways. But this gal refuses to give up. I have been blessed with something that I love to do. Something that none of my current limitations can prevent me from doing. Yep, I love disappearing into a world of my own making.

  1. What inspires you to write?

At first, I was just looking for a way to relieve the boredom. When I first got sick everything caused my head to hurt. No TV, no reading, no writing … a lot of no-nos. Finally I was able to read for entertainment, but quickly found that the genres/authors I wanted to read were being produced slower than my need. Lol. With nothing to do but read, I went through quite a few books. I had always scribbled down story ideas, but for the most part I had focused on other arts like painting and poetry. I decided that flushing out my ideas sounded like a fun pursuit for my endless downtime … then story boards, rough drafts and finally searching for the publication avenue that would best suit my needs.

But it is more than just an inspiration to write. It is an inspiration to create. Between my Irish Granny with her love of painting, drawing, and cooking and my Cherokee Papaw with his need to gift everyone he met with their own personal rhyming introduction, his love of singing, and his overflowing notebooks of poetry, I grew up with a love of all things artistic. It is something that can take the ordinary and make it MORE. 😛

  1. As writers we always have to have that one drink when we are writing, what is your drink of choice?

My main drug of choice is Diet Coke. I refer to my easily flustered man at the gas station at the bottom of the hill as my Coke Dealer. 😛 I love diet coke, but only out of a fountain … no bottles, cans, or 2-liters for this gal. As a runner up, I enjoy tea. Sweet (splenda, of course) iced tea … I am from Kentucky after all. But a lot of other hot teas will do as well. I know that most will consider this blasphemy but I have never enjoyed the taste of coffee. It smells great, but that is as far as I will go.

5. Tell me about your latest writing, what can we expect to see from you?

Before I talk about my upcoming novel, I want to invite anyone that would like to participate in a blog tour. If interested, just drop me a line and I will put you in touch with my publisher. This will be my first blog tour, so any advice is welcome. 😛

This will be my first published piece, and I couldn’t be more excited. Shocking Finds: A Finder’s Keepers Novel is more than 100,000 words of fantasy/paranormal romance. The story begins as 21-year-old Marin attempts to find a small measure of independence. She lives in a world where heightened senses are common place, as she works at Finder’s Keepers using her senses to help find the lost or missing. Still, her overprotective and verbally abrasive aunt insists that real magic is for fools, nothing more than a children’s fairytale.

Her bid for independence leads to betrayal, Fae assassins, and more magic than Marin knows how to handle. Luckily, the insanity comes with her own personal bodyguard. A Fae too delicious for his own good.

This story started out as just Finder’s Keepers, but Stephen King managed to get there first. At first I was aggravated, but I think I may own the man a thank you. I already have two more rough drafts to follow in this series. As the people working at Finder’s Keepers will be in each novel, the master of horro actually did me a favor.

  1. Besides, Pugs, what other kind of animals do you like?

I love all animals, really. I definitely lean towards the Pug when I go to pick out a new pup, but there is so much beauty and intelligence to be found in the animal kingdom. Though I have never owned one myself, I love the feeling of flying across a field on the back of a horse. So much strength and elegance. To run on the back of some massive steed is the most freeing feeling to be had on land. (this is Kentucky which makes the beast hard to avoid)

There is also this toad that tends to stop by my back door when the weather gets warm. And yes I catch and feed him moths. This year, the toad appeared to be smaller. Most likely one of Froggy Assassin’s children (yes I named him :P). Last year I stepped outside, in the pitch black dark, and almost stepped on some toadish lovin’. Still, they fascinate me.

  1. You were diagnosed with MS a long time ago, what advice do you have for those who struggle with the disease?

The best advice I have to share would be to remind yourself each day that MS affects each person differently. When I was first diagnosed, my doctor tried to cheer me up by explaining that he knew of a patient with one lesion that had already died, while I could still walk and talk, even though my MRI showed too many lesions to count …. Huh??? Yeah, not very encouraging. I quickly stopped listen to horror stories, or even inspirational news. Instead I focused on how I felt, how I could deal with my limitations each and every day, and how to get back to being the person I used to be.

I had already lost my eyesight to the point that I couldn’t drive, only to have the issue reversed within a few months. So I knew that no matter what affects I had to face, I wasn’t the end. If I lost my ability to walk, I knew that with time I could get it back. I protect myself from further exacerbation (if your head hurts, stop what you are doing instantly, no matter what it is), and wake up asking myself two questions … what do I want to do today? Followed closely by; what can I do today? Just because reading hurts my head today, doesn’t mean I won’t be able to enjoy the book I’ve been waiting for forever tomorrow.

As for my writing, I can type or write long hand … or even use a tape recorder. There is always some way to get what you want. Just add artistic endeavors that use your mind and your hand to eye condonations, or even a child’s hand held game if you can. Work at building new pathways, new ways of being yourself, each day… and never give up.

8. Now we know about your writing, tell me about your reading style, how many books do you read?

I vary on the number of books I read each month, usually in the fantasy/paranormal romance genre but I will try anything with a cowboy to lust over. Because … yeah, Cowboys… yummm. So far, at 11 days into August, I have read four books. This is amazing to me. While my mother could go through twice as many, or more (when she is in the mood), I spend my youth and teen years avoiding books.

At four I was diagnosed as dyslexic. It all started when my aunt called to inform my mother that I written on the wall behind my cousins bed. Of course, my mother insisted to know how her sister knew that I had been the culprit. Turns out that I had written my name, and I had written it perfectly backwards.

People look at dyslexia as shameful, or worse, a sign of low intelligence. Malarkey. I learned coping mechanisms at an early age, and managed to do better in small bursts of text. Though a mild case, I still shied away from books and reading out loud. I would stutter when the teacher asked me to read something to the class that I hadn’t had the chance to memorize, and even today, editing my own words is a pain in the arse. Something that demands many, many, many rereads … and still it is always a good idea to have a second pair of eyes looking things over. But all of that is an inconvenience, not a handicap. I graduated from high school third in my class. I move slower than others, but finding a genre I love has helped me to improve a little more every year. Okay, rant over 😛

  1. What is your current read at this moment?

Currently, I have been reading the guild hunter series by Nalini Singh. And have been enjoying her style. She was suggested on a thread in Goodreads for one of their monthly read and pick for others threads. I needed something to fill my downtime, and all my favorites had been read and reread enough times that I had started to laugh about my favorite scenes while doing other activities. Lol. That is a lot worse than having a song stuck in your head.

  1. If you could meet any author who would it be and why?

Hmmmm … there are so many authors that I could so easily see adding to this list, but this is a blog swap, not a memoire (Warning: I can get a little wordy)

I would have to say that the number one person of interest would have to be Shelly Laurenston/G.A. Aiken (same person) Her dragons and other beasts are right up my alley. I love the way she can blend humor and deep emotions (with a heavy dose of lovin) into her books. Just reading the worlds she creates, I know that she would be a hoot to talk with. I appreciate humor, having been raised by a woman with a sharp wit and hilarious attitude. Laughter can make any situations lighter, and the ones that are already light will become a blast.

  1. When you are reading a book do you prefer paperback, e-book or hard back?

For the most part, I read from my kindle. Buttttt …. I love owning hardbacks of my favorites. The look, the feel … I can spend hours, and all my money, in a book store. No matter how many book shelves I own, I always seem to need more.

  1. Where is the best place to read a book?

I work and read from the lazy boy recliner in my office. Excellent lighting, with a calm atmosphere filling the room from all my paintings and American Indian dream catchers. Comfort, relaxation, and an escape into the unknown.

  1. Do you prefer fiction or non-fiction?

I definitely prefer fiction. And besides my love of cowboys, it is the more magical the better. I get enough of reality in day to day life. Being transported to another world is all about experiencing the impossible for me. While I enough deep emotions in at times, I what to have that open possibility that maybe, just maybe the world can be saved, the emotional death scene doesn’t have to be the end for the character you have grown to love, and handicaps can be fought through and conquered. I give myself permission to slip back into the mindset of a child. Where you dad is a superhero, you have the ability to track a lion in your backyard, and sailing your couch through the shark filled oceans of your living room carpet can happen at the drop of a hat.

  1. What do you expect for readers to get out of your blog?

More than anything else, I expect for readers to get acceptance from my blog. I welcome all comments as long as they are not hostile abrasive. The abasement of cultural groups and/or individual (for any reason) is not welcome.They can share in the insanity that is my life or pick up book ideas from random posts. They can follow my progress as I move toward the finish line to publish my first novel, and enjoy excerpts from my shorts and full novels. The number of people willing to follow my blog all ready had humbled me. I love meeting new people and chatting about books, random facts of life, or brainstorming to help fellow writers get their story rolling when it freezes up on them.

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Guest Blogging, Let’s Do It! #GuestBlogging


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Good evening, Readers! I know it’s been a couple of days since I blogged, but I have been reading and commenting on all of my subscribers! It is time consuming, but I am very dedicated to you guys as I hope you are to my posts. Trust me, I totally understand if you are not always able to comment. I get it! As I was talking to my manager the other day,  I have decided to do some guest blogging on my page and I’m interested in being a guest on your blog too!

Why guest blog? 

My Writing Style (MSH Blog Tour)

Guest blogging is important for a number of reasons. For example, you get to connect with so many different people! I love meeting new people whether they are from the blogging community or in real life. If I connect to you in some way and we speak often, I consider you a friend. Plus, you get to find out first hand when the next good read is coming out. I mean although most of us are writers we started to as readers first. As I stated in another blog, reading is so important. Anyway, guest  blogging will give you more exposure and you may learn something new.  I would love to do another interviews, your current reads, TBR lists and more.

Promoting Your Blog

MSH Blog Tour

When you promote your blog and share it on portals, you may gain a new readership. I think that the best promotion ever is word of mouth. I have been on twitter a lot more lately and following more writers, subscribing to their blogs and joining their sites. This way I can keep up with what is going on. I am still researching on good ways to promote a blog instead of just through social media. Don’t get me wrong, social media is the bomb.com,  but there is a system of getting vast results from it. I’m wondering if one needs to develop what is called a ” street team”. A street team is a group of friends or promoters that will promote your work on a daily basis. I made an attempt when I first started my writing career to have a street team and I swear, it went all the way left! I would pay in gifts, books, etc. The team I had chosen at the time who seemed to be as excited as I was, did not promote the way they were supposed to.

Street team

So, writers, I want to ask, do you have a street team?