New Series: Krystol Speaks


Hey readers! I want to add a new series on my blog, called Krystol Speaks. Here is a reader that had a question for me. Please let me know if you think I should continue this series on my blog. Read below!

Tell The Truth, Not What She Wants To Hear

This is not my normal blog post, but I was asked by a reader to give my two cents on something she is going through with a guy. Dating is hard for many people these no matter what age category you fall into. There have been so many horror stories and even successful ones on blogs and magazines of viewers sharing their stories. One of the things that have been complicated with dating is figuring where to meet a guy. Should one do online dating, call chat lines or the old – fashioned way where you dropped a piece of fruit in the aisle of a grocery store hoping for Mr. Right to pick it up. It could be kismet (or fate) as some call it. There are men who claim that they want the same things as you, but have no action behind it. It is starting to become bothersome and a waist of time. The truth will set you free.

 

Alley is a new reader of the Krystol Method and wanted some advice on her current situation with a guy named Ed. Of course, I said that I would help her in any way. She wanted other readers to give advice as well.

Alley’s story: Hey Krystol and readers, I am a journalist and I wanted to rekindle a flame from an ex of mine. He is a great guy, very grounded and stable as far as employment goes. He says he wants to be serious with me and be married and have children one day. This was great news to me because I am ready to settle down as I am in my mid thirties and ready for children. You see, Ed works two jobs as a mortician so his schedule is pretty much around the clock. We text more than we go out and talk on the phone. I am aware of his career, but what about the work life balance? I mentioned to him that I was excited, but worried if he had time for a relationship at all with his schedule. He told me that things would settle down in a while. I told him that it was fine, but I wanted to make sure that this was what he wanted. I stressed that I wanted consistency in our relationship especially if we were talking marriage and children. Then, things switched up. He said it was going to be hard because he did not think that he could be a consistent father. It really threw me for a loop because I am thinking, if he cannot be a consistent father, how can he be a consistent boyfriend or husband? Is Ed married to his work? I really do not know what to do. Krystol, please give me some advice. What are your thoughts?

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My Advice to Alley: It seems that Ed really cares about you. There needs to be a balance between work and life on his part. Ed could be flipping the script because he is afraid. He may not know what he really wants, but knows he needs to make some moves with you. You guys have stayed friends and in contact this long. It could be for good reason. Sometimes men may tell us what we want to hear just to pacify us or to see if they can really feel that way in time. But, I get the feeling that Ed is a genuine guy. Freedom and moving quickly can be a lot to men who have not been in a relationship for a while. You have to work on being patient if he is whom you truly want. Now, I am not saying to settle. If he does not show you that he wants you when his schedule dies down then by all means keep dating other people. Ed needs to decide what he wants you to be in his life. Start off slow and get to know each other again and see what happens. This could be the start to something great.

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Outing Your Novel 2.0


Outlining Your Novel

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Like any writer, this is a step in the process where it gets real. By this times character profiles should have been done, the plot sketched out on many different post it notes or a notebook. This is the part where your desk or writing area looks a mess with so many different ideas and levels to your story. Writers outline in many ways. Some do not use an outline at all. Whatever way you fancy, outlining or sorting your ideas is a must. Depending on what of novel you are writing, research is very important and some research can take months or even years to sort through. For example, imagine writing a crime fiction novel. You may have old case files, have suspects to figure out, and more.

 

When it comes to outlining, think of it as telling a story from the beginning, middle and the end. Or for screenwriters this Act 1, Act 2, and Act 3, but take things step by step. Ask yourself these questions: How do I want the story to start? What will the main character do in the beginning of the story? Is he/she being dramatic? Is the character going to talk in a narrative tone or third person? Check out this example of how an outline can go.

  1. Main Character
  • Who is it? ( Give me a full fabricated name)
  • Zodiac Sign
  • Mannerisms ( is he/she shy? Smooth and charismatic? A Jerk?)
  • Where does his story start? (High school, middle school, College?)
  • What made him the main character the way he/she is? (Pain, addiction, broken heart)
  • Add other characters, friends, parents, situations and incidents. Give them names, descriptions, complexions, mannerisms and characteristic. Be specific.
  1. Family Life
  • Does the main character have siblings?
  • What was his household like? Day to day routine?
  • Parents accepting of he/she? Did he feel like the black sheep? Got along with everyone?
  • Talk about parents were they good parents? Bad parents?
  1. Personality of Main Character
  • Did he get along with his peers?
  • Have a best friend?
  • Popular/Unpopular
  • What did he like to do for fun?
  1. Plot
  • What happens that shifts the main characters life/lifestyle? What made it hard?
  • Explain in detail, how he was feeling while his life was changing
  • What makes the transition of a innocent child to an adult?
  • Is the main character married? Have kids? What is that structure like while he’s going through what he is?
  1. Final Result Or Ending
  • What is the main character taking away from this?
  • How has he/she learned?
  • Does the good outweigh the bad depending on the situation?
  • What would you like to see for an ending?

 

 

I’ve attached some blog posts that will help you get starting with the writing process once you are ready. Included are other example outlines and more notes as well. I’ve put them in order of the writing when you get started. I hope this article and the other examples I have provided help you go far with your writing! NanowriMo is coming soon ( National Novel Writing Month) and I hope you guys that are writers will participate.

 

 

 

  1. https://writingsbykrystol.wordpress.com/2014/03/15/back-to-basics-character-profile/

 

  1. https://writingsbykrystol.wordpress.com/2014/06/05/the-power-of-the-plot/

 

  1. https://writingsbykrystol.wordpress.com/2014/08/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-choose-names-for-your-characters/

 

  1. https://writingsbykrystol.wordpress.com/2014/08/03/is-it-okay-to-use-a-pseudonym/

 

 

  1. https://writingsbykrystol.wordpress.com/2014/07/29/i-want-to-turn-my-book-into-a-movie-how-should-i-do-that/

 

  1. https://writingsbykrystol.wordpress.com/2014/07/25/my-gift-to-you-signatory-agent-list-for-writers/

 

 

  1. https://writingsbykrystol.wordpress.com/2014/07/23/creating-the-ending-of-your-story/

 

  1. https://writingsbykrystol.wordpress.com/2014/07/07/are-word-counts-really-that-important/

 

  1. https://writingsbykrystol.wordpress.com/2014/06/21/my-book-is-completed-now-what/

 

  1. https://writingsbykrystol.wordpress.com/2014/06/21/my-book-is-completed-now-what/

 

 

 

Who Is Prissy P?


Who is Prissy P?

 

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There are so many misconceptions about BBW (Big, Black, Women). Some say they are lazy, unmotivated, fat, and just disgusting. The term big or fat has been tossed around like a rag doll for years. The ridicule and harsh words may have affected some people’s self-esteem, self-image and way of life. But, it has not affected Prissy P aka Precious Lassiter. This YouTube Sensation, entrepreneur and go-getter has beat the odds and proven to the world that being big does not mean you cannot live your life. Starting her own cosmetics line, Prissy has showed many people that you can continue to be big and beautiful. Prissy gave me the 411 about how she got started and what is coming for her in the future.

Krystol : What made you want to start your own cosmetics line?

Prissy P: I started Prissy Cosmetics because I am big on self-love and confidence. I never wore make-up and when I did it made me feel so different. A little pop of color can make you feel like a new lady!

Krystol: Did you always have an entrepreneur mindset?

Prissy P: Yes. Since I was born, I always acquired leadership skills. I have a younger brother who I was always like the mother of, while our mom was at work. I knew I was born to be a boss.

Krystol: What advice do you have for people who want to start a business?

Prissy P: I say, go for what you feel. Stay true to your passion. Always keep God or your higher power first and keep pushing.

Krystol: If you could do anything differently, what would it be?

Prissy P: Hmm. It would have to have been to stay in school and further my education. However, everything happens for a reason.

Krystol: What is next for Prissy P?

Prissy P: What is next for me is a plus size work out line. I feel this is needed because it is so hard to find. I think we all (big girls) should look cute going to the gym as well. Stay tuned; the best is yet to come!

There you have it! Prissy has spoken. My subscribers and I will continue to follow Prissy’s moves as she continues to murder the internet showing women that you can still be big and be a boss!

 

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Want to buy these looks and more? Go to http://www.loveprissyp.com for great cosmetics and more!

Beauty Picks! Which Would You Wear?

 

Want to join my read along?


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I hope that your Thursday was really good! It’s almost Friday so don’t worry. I wanted to invite you guys to a read along that I am hosting on my YouTube channel! We ( me and my subscribers) do a weekly read a long where we vote on books to read together. This has been so successful and I wanted my subscribers here to join in. I will posting DAILY reading updates about the book and what I have read thus far and my thoughts. The readathon will start on Monday, September 18,2017 at 12am. We will be 75 pages a day  of this book here!

Jane Eyre

This will be my FIRST Bronte book so I am excited to see how it is. I did watch the movie a while ago and I fell in love with it. Hopefully, the book will not disappoint. If you had read this book before, please let me know what you thought about it. I hope that some of my subscribers here are able to join me!

 

Patience


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Hey Readers! Lately, I have been busy with sending out query letters and applying for jobs. The rejections from both are coming more fast than my yes’s that I am looking for. I am starting to get discourage, but my faith remains. I am not going to complain, but yet I will say that I am learning to be patient. I have always been an instant gratification type of person, but I am trying to change my tune. I know that things in life are a marathon and not a sprint. Honestly, I think that part of my problem is focusing on what other people are doing with their lives. For example, if a writer gets an agent or someone has their dream job I am envious. I have never been a jealous person, but at times I wish I had what others did. Now that I am older, I learned to follow my own path and be happy for others and their success.

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Moving on, I am also learning patience with my writing. For a while, I thought that I had to write three-four books a year to be successful. This is actually writer suicide unless you are a well-known writer like Stephen King, James Patterson, or someone. I realized that with my self published works, my marketing SUCKED! I put the book out and my family and friends would buy it, but that was it. Sales were good for a while, but then it tanked. Now, I am trying to get an agent and re-brand myself as a writer. But, how do I do that? I’ve been researching marketing campaigns for successful self-published authors. I know that Colleen Hoover started off as an Indie author and then she was picked. I will look more into her story this week.  So, that is what has been going on lately. I am excited for the new things to come from me being patient.

Can Rejections Ruin Your Confidence As A Writer?


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As a writer, it is hard for others to see your work the way that you do. I mean, how many no’s can we take? J. K. Rowling took a one too many no’s before she got her yes. I tweeted Angie Thomas, ( author of The Hate You Give) and she gave me some sound advice. She said, ” All you need is that one yes.” But, it seems with the more rejections we get as a writer, the less excited we feel that our yes will come. With writing, can the rejections ruin our confidence?

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Growing up as children we all hated the word NO. So, it is only right that as an adult we still do not like the word, especially when it comes to something we think is so perfect like our writing. I will be honest, in my lifetime, I have given up on my writing abilities three times due to rejection. There was one time I was querying agents for a book and I did not understand why I was getting rejected. Once, I did my research the correct way and not listened to what other writers were telling me, I realized why. My stories were not aligned with the correct word count.

Once I realized my wrong doing, I self-published all of my books. For a while, the ,money was great, but after a while, the money stops. Then I felt like I had exhausted all possibilities to make money from this way. The more writing I was doing, the more I felt that I had to re-invent myself in some way. Now, I have a completed book that I want to be published the traditional route. The process of getting an agent is tough, but it will be worth it once I get my yes. This experience is damping my spirits just a bit, but I am not going to give up. I said to myself, ” My stories are not good and I am throwing in the towel.” Then, I had someone inbox me via social media and asked me when was my next book coming out. The message that the young lady sent me was HOPE. In that moment, I realized that I could not writing or telling stories. They were in me and it is my duty to share it with the world. Never give up, keep the confidence and the faith. You are a writer.

The Waiting Game With Queries


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Happy Wednesday! I hope all is well on you end. As for me, I am learning patience in more ways than one. Let’s see, I will say that my mind is on an overload from querying so many agents. Granted, agents look so many queries everyday, but for some reason I have in my mind that they are supposed to respond to me as soon as I send the e-mail. LOL! This is silly I know. I am learning patience, but it is getting hard.

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I have read and watching many videos on how to pass the time when waiting to hear back from agents. Thus far, I have queried about 60 agents and have gotten 8 rejections. The ball can still be in my court, so I have not given up hope yet. It is still alive. Since I have started this process of traditional publishing, my mind has not been on writing anything but my blogs here and my article for Conscious Talk Magazine ( btw, go subscribe at conscioustalkmag.com). I am still job hunting like crazy so I am trying to stay occupied. How can you when you read books that are NYT’s Best Sellers and know that pieces or a few pages of your works is out there for agents to read and determine if I have a best seller too? So, this is what I have come up with:

  1. Meditation – Relieve some of the anxiety that I am feeling.
  2. Pray – Prayer changes EVERYTHING!
  3. Read – This is a given. You can not be a writer if you are not a reader first. ~ Stephen King
  4. Talk To Writer Friends – I do not have many writer friends that I talk to often so I will have to get some new ones on twitter.
  5. Breathe – This is a given.

Get out of your own way

 

Lately, to pass the time I have been thinking a lot about my life thus now and where I want to be in the next five years both personally and professionally. My goal is to be a New York Time’s Best Seller and continue to write books while I change the world with my words. I will still work a day time job as well ( preferably with writing) or helping in some capacity whether it is through research, etc.

 

Book Review: Bird Box by Josh Malerman


Bird Box

Title: Bird Box

Author: Josh Malerman

My Edition: Paperback

Page Numbers: 262

My Rating: 3 Stars

My Review: Before I started to read this book, I looked at reviews on Goodreads. There were so many 5 star’s that it made me very excited. But, as I started to read the book, I noticed that it was the first half was very slow. The plot twist was very interesting and it made me want to continue the book. Bird Box is about a girl named Calorie who lives in a town where people have died and disappeared due to a creature. She lost her sister and is now on her own with her unborn child. She sees an ad in the paper regarding shelter in house where others live. The key is to keep your eyes closed, because once you see something, you will die. This thriller was a little drastic for me in terms of the storyline. I am not going to give any spoilers aways, but I will say every reader is different and this book was just okay for me.

Learning To Play The Hand You Were Dealt


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Good evening, readers! As I sitting in my bed thinking, I thought I would write a blog for today. Things have not been going well as I thought it would. The job fell through that I was working for. Turns out, I was hired when I did not have the correct credentials to teach. This is a bummer. Luckily, I still have the writing gig, but it is not full-time. So, back to the drawing board I go. When life gives you a hand, you have to play in order to win the game. No matter what, I will always stay in the game.

I am not blogging to complain, but to inspire. I have cried long enough today. My tears are now dry and it is time to keep playing the game and win. This is all a part of God’s plan to show me my next move. But, whatever it is, trust me, my next move will be my best move. Learning to move in silence. I hope everyone has a great weekend!

 

Want A Paid Writing Gig?


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My fellow writers! I have a GEM for you! I know how we writers want to make a living writing or at least be appreciated for what we have to bring to the table, right? I came across this online paid magazine by networking right here on wordpress. I started to read other’s blogs and BOOM there it was! Yes, I am talking about this banner right here:

This is totally legit! I even signed a contract and met other writers for the magazine as well. This is a new magazine and I must say that I very excited to accept the position of a columnist! My areas of expertise will be for Bookish News and Reviews, Writer’s Life and Fashion & Beauty sections. I could not be more proud to be a part of a great magazine. If you have more questions please do hesitate to email the editor at EDITOR@CONSCIOUSTALKMAG.COM.

My Thoughts:

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If you look back on my  What’s On Your Writer’s Bucket List?  back in 2013, I stated that I wanted to write for a company. I did not specify what type of company because it could be anything. I have been a contributing writer for a few magazines, but never having my own column(s). This opportunity is so exciting for me. You have no idea. I want all of my writer friends to join in on this venture with me if you are interested and have the time.