This Is Deep…
As a writer, it is hard for others to see your work the way that you do. I mean, how many no’s can we take? J. K. Rowling took a one too many no’s before she got her yes. I tweeted Angie Thomas, ( author of The Hate You Give) and she gave me some sound advice. She said, ” All you need is that one yes.” But, it seems with the more rejections we get as a writer, the less excited we feel that our yes will come. With writing, can the rejections ruin our confidence?
Okay…
Growing up as children we all hated the word NO. So, it is only right that as an adult we still do not like the word, especially when it comes to something we think is so perfect like our writing. I will be honest, in my lifetime, I have given up on my writing abilities three times due to rejection. There was one time I was querying agents for a book and I did not understand why I was getting rejected. Once, I did my research the correct way and not listened to what other writers were telling me, I realized why. My stories were not aligned with the correct word count.
Once I realized my wrong doing, I self-published all of my books. For a while, the ,money was great, but after a while, the money stops. Then I felt like I had exhausted all possibilities to make money from this way. The more writing I was doing, the more I felt that I had to re-invent myself in some way. Now, I have a completed book that I want to be published the traditional route. The process of getting an agent is tough, but it will be worth it once I get my yes. This experience is damping my spirits just a bit, but I am not going to give up. I said to myself, ” My stories are not good and I am throwing in the towel.” Then, I had someone inbox me via social media and asked me when was my next book coming out. The message that the young lady sent me was HOPE. In that moment, I realized that I could not writing or telling stories. They were in me and it is my duty to share it with the world. Never give up, keep the confidence and the faith. You are a writer.
The Krystol Method 
I have a blogging friend Darlene Foster who was writing her first book a few years ago when we were both starting out. She worked on her book every day after work. She says it took her three years to write it and five years to get it published. She and her hubby now live in Spain and she has published many books in her ‘Amanda’ series. Google her and feel comforted. It can take time but oh my the rewards are great. You can do it.
I will! Thanks so much.
I can relate to this. It’s difficult to face so many rejections in the hopes of getting one yes. Even if you self-publish there’s still the struggle of gaining reviews and sales. For me, I write because it’s part of who I am. I publish because my desire to share my stories out-weighs the feelings of defeat I feel when reviews don’t exist and sales are low. I continue to publish because, like you, I have a handful of messages from fans (not family or friends) who are literally waiting for what I publish next.